I read this on someone else’s blog…it was rhetorical question.  She has been experiencing some drama.

I thought it was question.

I think women do NOT have to be dramatic. Drama seems to surround those who center their life on emotions.

Typically, I think girls should outgrow the drama by the time they graduate high-school with their drama peak at 9th grade.  There are women who are 45 years old but their behavior reflects that of a 15 year old girl.   Some women never outgrow the drama.

There are two things that escalate drama.  1.  We are wounded and easily hurt by others.  And 2. We assume the worst about each other. 

If you think about most drama, it usually involves two women who were once friends but now one or both of them are at each other’s throats…only most of the action is going on behind each other’s backs. 

Here are some steps to eliminate drama or hopefully at very least lessen the effects…

1. Communication.  Communicate with the person who you believe has “hurt” you or who has been hurt by you.

2. Do not talk about the person behind her back…this includes, long sighs and eye rolling.

3. If a conversation about this person comes up, do not participate or simply walk away (be subtle…not self-righteous).

4. Say a prayer for her.  She may be having a rough time.

5. If this person is a friend and this is a patter with her, consider distancing yourself from her.  If she has issues with you, she will eventually turn on you or suck you into some drama with a mutual friend.

6. Realize and acknowledge there are two sides to every story. 

7. Let it go. Some people will not change.  And sometimes you have to let these people exit your life.  If you want to preserve the friendship then be prepared to let the comments and actions of this person “go”…forgive and forget. 

8. Do not be driven by your emotions.  Emotions are good for letting you know what hurts but they should not be the driving force in your life.  If you feel hurt about something…ask yourself “Why does this hurt?”  Most hurts can be tracked back to a deeper issue.  This is especially true if you get your feelings hurt easily…it is almost always a deeper issue.  An event in your childhood; something that needs healing.

I’d also like to add that these “dramas” seem much more prevalent in single women.  This of course makes sense because they are competing for men.  Ladies, don’t complete.  When it the guy for you, no other woman will turn his head.